Ice breaker questions can help mothers and daughters begin difficult conversations.
Mothers and daughters can have dynamic relationships, especially when it comes to communication. If mothers and daughters have expectations for one another, sometimes defensive or resentful communication can result. For example, advice can be mistaken for criticism, so it's important to phrase questions thoughtfully. Sometimes it takes a few ice breaker questions to ease into difficult, sensitive or embarrassing topics of conversation.
Expressed Interest
Ask questions that express an interest in the other person. Show that you take notice of you mom or daughter by acknowledging an observation. For example: "I saw that you were wearing some new jeans today. Do you know of any places where I can find good selection of clothes for this season?" Asking questions that show interest and care in the other person can help break down defensive barriers and open up communication.
Personal Examples
Break a barrier with you mom or with your daughter by relating a question to personal experience. The question can begin by you stating something about yourself, such as: "My girlfriends in high school were also hard to get along with sometimes. Have you tried to talk to your friend about what is on your mind?" If you share something about yourself first in a conversation, it helps to show your vulnerability in the conversation, which can help the other person open up.
Rhetorical Questions
You can break the ice with questions that are situational, rather that directed toward your mother or daughter. The hypothetical situation can refer to a fabricated situation or use alternate people as examples. State a question similar to this: "If you were going to move to a new place and accept a job opportunity, what factors would you consider to make the decision?" You can also use alternate people: "My friend, Kate, is nervous about going away to college. What advice should I give her to ease her inhibitions?"
Offered Support
Show your mother or daughter that you support her; no matter what questions or topics arise in a conversation, both people can feel comfortable. Show your support by asking an ice breaker question in this way: "You know I love you, no matter what. Is there anything that you want to talk about? Anything that will make this time easier for you? Is there anything I can do to help you through this?"
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